A prerequisite for the engagement of the father is the cooperation of the mother, who must give the father enough room to manoeuvre. It is important that she trust him to take care of the child when it is an infant and that he build his relationship with the child differently than she.
While time spent with a daughter is equally important, all activities that fathers and sons do together have an additional function. The father is always a model and rival for a son who learns his own strengths by jousting with his father.
This is especially easy when the relationship is close. If the relationship is missing, the boy seeks an idol in a video or a computer game and that can be dangerous, said Nelles.